Don’t tell me not to be a perfectionist

 

 

Copyright 2017

I’m a perfectionist, I like to get things right, is there anything so wrong with that? I mean, besides the question of what perfect actually is and what “getting things right” really means I don’t see the issue. Except the obsessing over every little detail and having a tantrum when things don’t go my way. That may perhaps be an issue… anyway, we’re not here to psychoanalyse or judge! We’re here to discuss my plea, my plea that people stop telling me I shouldn’t be trying to get things right. My plea that people stop telling me not to be “such a perfectionist” like I can just stop being who I am. Yeah no worries, how about you stop being an a-hole. Oops, you can’t because it’s just who you are? Moving on.

I’m told it’s unhealthy and it’s ‘not good’ for my creative side to want to get things perfect. I understand what you’re saying, you’re saying that if you’re too busy trying to get things perfect you may, in fact, stop the creativity from happening. This may be true, I mean, I’d like to see some evidence for this claim but I do see how you could be right. I’d like you to see things from my perspective because apparently what I’m doing is, well, I suppose it’s wrong if what you are telling me is correct about perfectionism being bad. Wow, how’s that for mind f*%*ed? You’re telling me that being right all the time is the wrong way so that would mean your way is the right way so I should strive to do what you’re saying. If I strive to do what you’re saying then I will essentially be right, which is what I was trying to do in the first place. I was trying to do things right. Do you see what I’m getting at? THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG WAY! THERE’S ONE PERSON’S WAY AND ANOTHER PERSON’S WAY AND THEN THERE’S SOCIETY’S WAY. Are you confused yet? Excellent! I’ve been confused for years.

You know what it feels like, it feels like someone woke up one day and decided to proclaim this thing about perfectionism and striving for doing things perfectly as being the killer of creativity. Since then, people have taken this, not thought any more about it, and decided it was correct. Was it the people who aren’t familiar with the obsession to get things right who decided this? Or was it the people who become crippled with obsession and anxiety over things who proclaimed this great statement to try and ease the craziness? I don’t know and I don’t care, all I know is I’m sick of being told that the way my mind works is wrong. I’m sick of being made to feel that I am actually conducting myself incorrectly when all I want to do is do things the right way! WHO MADE YOU THE BOSS OF HOW SHIT SHOULD BE DONE ANYWAY? AND DON’T YOU TELL ME YOU DON’T LOVE THE FEELING OF ACHIEVING SOMETHING OR FINALLY GETTING SOMETHING ‘RIGHT’!

Is it so bad to want to know you’ve done something right? Is it so bad to want to acknowledge you have improved or finally nailed something you’ve been working on for so long? My acting teachers go on about not wanting to get things right but wanting to ‘explore’ and ‘mess things up’. Yeah, yeah that’s great. But sometimes people just want to know they’ve done something right. If you can’t relate, that’s cool. Just try to understand and to see things from my point of view, it won’t kill you and it’s definitely NOT the ‘wrong way’ to go about things. I get it, being a perfectionist means you take failure really badly. It’s inevitable when all you want to do is get things right but let me tell you something, it makes you work really REALLY hard. It makes you not want to give up and it makes you fight for things. Yes, I’ve had to learn to deal with failure and how to not let it bring me down BUT my need to get things right makes me work hard. I guess that’s a positive, right?

If you haven’t had enough of reading my rant go on and watch me rant in person… you know what want to!

 

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